A Reddit post by a 48-year-old father caught the attention of many and triggered a discussion about the complex family ties, the individual actions of the members of a family, and how the complex dance of family dynamics at key life moment influences future events.
When his daughter announced she would be getting married, he was more than happy to offer to cover all the expenses related to the wedding.
The daughter accepted the offer and seemed grateful for it, but in the next moment she told her father that she wanted to walk down the aisle all by herself.
Even the taught of him not being able to share that precious moment with her filled him with disappointment, let alone hearing his daughter telling him that.
In the post, he described his daughter as an “independent thinker” whose wishes he always respected, but this was something he wasn’t willing to get over.
In fact, he got so mad at her decision to exclude him from the special walk down the aisle that he reconsidered his decision to pay for her wedding and everything related to it.
The daughter got angry and accused him of not respecting her choices, adding that her parents “didn’t own her.” These words shattered the father’s heart. “I feel insulted because we never treated her like property or an object. Instead, we did everything we could to give her a wonderful life,” he wrote. “She’s had every opportunity in her life so far and to exclude us from this day is a slap in the face,” he added.
He now wanted to know if he was in the wrong for not financing the wedding.
His post turned out to be quite thought-provoking and sparked a discussions about the role of the parents at the wedding of their children.
It gathered over 12,000 upvotes and more than 6,300 comments.
Most of the Redditors dubbed the father NTA and stood by his side, writing the decision he made was the right one. His daughter should be happy she has a generous father by her side, and she definitely needed to give him the chance to experience that special father-daughter moment of walking her down the aisle.
What are your thoughts on this?