In the realm of Reddit, personal dilemmas and family feuds are rife, particularly when wedding preparations are underway. Delve into three compelling accounts from individuals who, for reasons deeply personal, chose not to invite their mothers to their weddings.
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The first narrative on Reddit involves a shattered dream. The Original Poster (OP) recently revealed that when she was 13, she learned her mother and her mom's boyfriend would be tying the knot. She was elated for the couple and congratulated them.
OP recalled a promise made in childhood by her mother, ensuring her a special place in her future wedding. She divulged:
"Ever since I was a little girl my mom has always told me I would be in her wedding and I would be the flower girl. That made me very happy."
However, as the wedding approached, 14-year-old OP learned she and her disabled brother would not attend their mother's wedding. Yet, their aunt and uncle, including their stepfather's kids were on the guest list.
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Naturally, OP was devastated and cried about it. She asked her mother why she could not be at her wedding. "'Because we were 'too young, and we needed a babysitter,'" her mother explained. After the wedding, OP chose not to speak to her mother for nearly two weeks. This early wound led to a decision she made later on that mirrored the past.
Now, OP is almost 20 years old and is about to walk down the aisle. She did not invite her mother to her own wedding, and her parent found out about the snub before the ceremony, leading the two to engage in a "big argument" that severed their communication.
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In her Reddit post, OP questioned fellow Redditors whether she was wrong to retaliate. One user commented, saying it was her wedding while assuming there might be more than she was letting on, hence she does not want her mom there.
OP replied to the user's comment, stating she truly would have liked to have her mother at her wedding, but because she hurt her feelings as a child and destroyed her dream, she could not allow her to come to hers.
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In April 2023, a 27-year-old female Reddit user shared her journey toward a non-traditional wedding. Her story is one of estrangement as she disclosed: "I have not lived with my mom since I was 16. We never had a good relationship and she was not a very good mother to me."
The absence of her mother's presence in her life was filled by her partner's mother. Despite attempts to reconnect, OP faced continued criticism from her biological mother, leading to her decision not to invite her to the wedding.
She remained steadfast when challenged by her family, stating, "My stepdad called me saying my mom was really upset... I told him that I'm not changing my decision and if they show up they will not be allowed in."
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In January 2023, one other Reddit user, a 27-year-old male, recounted his fractured family ties. "My parents divorced when I was 2. My mom remarried to her current husband... I've never gotten along with my mom or stepdad," OP revealed.
He described a childhood tarnished by his mother's affair and subsequent marriage, leading to a distant relationship with his half and step-siblings. His wedding plans reflected these deep-seated tensions.
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"I decided I didn't want her whole family at my wedding," OP shared. This decision led to conflict, with his mother withdrawing from the wedding, only to later express a desire to attend. But the OP's resolve remained.
He revealed she called him and was furious about the fact that his stepsister would be a bridesmaid at the wedding. "She started to yell/cry so I just hung up," said OP. His dad advised him to reconsider and show his mother empathy. But he stood his ground, noting that his mother was okay with not going to the wedding for months.
As for OP's stepmother, she supported him in every decision he made, yet felt sorry for the biological mother, hence suggesting he should include her in the wedding regardless of their circumstances.
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Overall, the OPs have been torn between forgiveness and remembrance, each choosing a path that best suits their emotional landscape.
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