“After 5 years in my relationship with my girlfriend I proposed. She was super excited and wanted to start planning right away.” It seemed that the loving couple would have a happy future together, but the woman showed her true personality, and the man is so at a loss that he decided to turn to Internet users for help.
The hero of this story is a 45-years-old man. He has an 11-year-old daughter from his first marriage, and he shares custody over her with his ex-wife. But he fell in love again and began to build a new relationship. From the very beginning, his girlfriend got along well with his daughter, and the man was really happy about it.
After the proposal, the fiancée looked at venues and started asking her friends to be her bridesmaids. But after that something unexpected happened.
The man wrote, “She then told me she wanted her niece to be a flower girl. Which I had no problem with, but I said I also wanted my daughter to be a flower girl. My fiancée looked at my funny and then said that she didn’t think that my daughter would fit the part.”
The man was shocked, he wrote, “I got angry and told her that my daughter would be in our wedding. My fiancée started to become upset and said that the girls in the wedding were up to her and my daughter wouldn’t be one of them. I told her that if my daughter wasn’t in the wedding then there might not be a wedding. I stormed out and took my daughter to get ice cream.
My daughter knows we are getting married and told me she thinks she will look pretty in whatever dress my fiancée decides she should wear. This broke my heart.”
He decided to text his fiancée and told her he would be staying at a friend’s to think this over. Then his mother-in-law texted him saying he was overreacting and that his daughter didn’t have to be in his wedding, and that he was a jerk for saying that he would cancel it.
The situation is really unpleasant, so the man turned to Internet users for advice, “So, did I take it too far saying I will cancel? Am I overreacting or just being a good dad?” The majority of commenters sided with the man. By the way, the first comment was liked by 46,000 people.
- This is a big red flag. If she doesn’t want to include her stepdaughter in her wedding, then don’t expect she will include your daughter in her life. © 10×10Hag / Reddit
- I think the default expectation is that any children of the bride or groom will be included in the ceremony in some way. I would even think it’s appropriate to include the child in the vows. Unless the child has a behavioral issue that could be disruptive, your fiancée is the jerk here. © hannafrie / Reddit
Here are a few other comments:
- God, I get not wanting her to be a flower girl, but the idea of not wanting her in the wedding at all is Disney stepparent evil. I hope this parent does the right thing. © PlasticPaulBunyan / Reddit
- What seems even more insidious about this is that he’s been dating this woman for 5 years, since his daughter was 6 years old. The girl has known his fiancée for nearly half of her life already, and now that they’re getting married, it’s like she can “start over” and the girl can just go live with Mom I guess? I’d cancel the wedding and make plans to leave the relationship. © LeftCoast28 / Reddit
- I got married to my husband when his boys were 7 and 9. Hubby and I said vows and then the boys joined us for family vows. All 4 of us lit the unity candle. I married a family, not a man. © Chance_Ad_8255 / Reddit