It’s not always easy to connect with stepchildren, but when we do, it seems like a big milestone. Our reader thought he had managed to find common ground with his 11-year-old stepdaughter. However, she pulled a cruel trick just when he least expected it.
Our reader reached out to us for help.
Thank you for sharing your story with us! It’s sad that you had to go through it. We have some tips that can help you out.
Talk to your wife about it.
The fact that your wife finds the situation funny is worrying. It could have easily resulted in you getting into serious trouble, like ending up in jail. It seems like she doesn’t realize how dangerous it could have been for you. If she’s not willing to take steps to make sure it doesn’t happen again, it might be worth thinking about whether this relationship is right for you.
Demand an apology.
It’s normal for Chris to not fully understand the impact of what she did, since she’s young. Still, it is a big deal. She should apologize, not just to you, but to the school staff as well. Doing it face-to-face would show that she understands why her actions could have been dangerous for you.
Try to improve your relationship with Chris.
It’s not clear why you didn’t call Chris in the first place. If you don’t have her phone number, ask her to share it with you. If you prefer having your wife handle communication, consider what might be holding you back from accepting Chris. Maybe you two need to spend more time together so she doesn’t see you as a stranger.
Try to forgive her.
Chris might not have fully understood how serious her actions were. It’s important to explain to her why what she did wasn’t okay and how it could have caused serious problems. Holding onto anger won’t help, so try to let it go and give Chris another chance. Moving forward with understanding and patience can help rebuild trust and strengthen your relationship.
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