For Anna and Lucy DeCinque, living identically goes far beyond looks and shapes the most private parts of their lives
Finding a partner you want to share every part of your life with is a challenge for most people, and keeping that bond strong takes effort from both sides. But for some, the idea of sharing that person with someone who is your exact copy adds a whole new layer to the relationship.
Identical twins Anna and Lucy DeCinque have spent their entire lives mirroring each other in every possible way, choosing the same foods, wearing matching outfits, and keeping their routines aligned so they never drift apart.
They even shower together and use the bathroom at the same time, a level of closeness that would feel overwhelming for most people. But for the DeCinque twins, this constant togetherness is simply their normal, and it has shaped their love lives in ways that most people struggle to understand.
The twins have grown so comfortable with this shared lifestyle that they insist they never feel jealous when one receives affection, even when it happens while they are sharing the same bed. It’s a topic that people ask them about again and again.
Anna and Lucy, who live in Australia, have answered this question several times before, often responding in perfect unison as if they had practiced it.
During an appearance on the show Hughesy, We Have a Problem, the twins were asked whether they share an oversized king bed when they are intimate with their partner. Without hesitation, they answered together: "Yes, and thats it, thats all we're saying, we're never apart."
The twins have talked openly about the effort they put into staying identical, explaining how they measure out portions of food and drink and even undergo fillers and cosmetic treatments at the same time to keep their mirrored look intact.
One surprising twist in their story is that their partner of 14 years, Ben, is also a twin. But unlike his brother, Ben is the only one in a polygamous relationship.
Even though they share their fiancé, the twins insist they feel no jealousy over how much time each spends with him. They say Ben has worked out a system that keeps their relationship balanced and prevents conflict.
"There's no jealousy in the relationship," the twins said, before adding "If Ben will kiss Anna, he'll kiss Lucy." They also noted that the order in which Ben shows affection does not matter to them, because what they value most is staying connected to each other.
The identical pair, who appeared on the TLC series Extreme Sisters, have joked about being “double trouble,” saying they often team up when disagreements happen and Ben ends up outnumbered.
Ben does not seem bothered by this dynamic, since, as he puts it, he gets “double the love, double the attention” by being with them.
While the twins are happy with their lifestyle, being part of a twin-centered throuple does come with complications that many couples never think about.
For Anna and Lucy, the next big challenge is figuring out how they can become pregnant at the same time. They want to experience motherhood together just like they have experienced everything else in life.
They have said they are open to IVF if that helps them stay in sync, but the twins have also explored trying to conceive naturally. "There's a lot of pressure on Ben," the pair admitted.
Another major roadblock to their long-term plans is the law. Australia has banned polygamy since 1961, which means the trio cannot legally marry as a group.
"We would like to marry him one day but the law in Australia says we can't, so what do we do?" the pair said on Extreme Sisters.
"If we can change the law and the government, we'd love to marry Ben," Anna said. "I mean love is love, we're all adults—we should marry the same man."