In the early days, passion felt unstoppable — every glance sparked desire, every weekend turned into a whirlwind of intimacy. But as time passes, even the most affectionate relationships can drift into routine, leaving one or both partners longing for the spark that once was.
According to Dr. Dana McNeil, a sexless relationship isn’t defined by numbers, but by discontent. “It becomes a problem when the lack of intimacy causes emotional distress or dissatisfaction,” she explains. Often, the issue isn’t the absence of sex itself — it’s the silence around it.
Common causes include exhaustion, unresolved conflicts, resentment, or health issues. Over time, partners may treat intimacy as a chore rather than a connection.
Experts suggest starting with honest, blame-free communication using “I” statements, like “I feel distant from you lately.” Reflect on your needs, listen to your partner’s feelings, and consider therapy if discussions stall.
Sometimes, physical reconnection begins with simple touch — not sex, to rebuild trust and emotional closeness.
And if effort brings no change? As McNeil notes, “Lack of empathy or willingness to try may mean it’s time to walk away.”